#30 - Let there be silence
We often feel obligated to fill silences, but it is within this space we find our mind refreshed and rejuvenated.
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Earlier last month, I spoke about how not everyone deserves to be in the safe spaces of our vulnerable moments.
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As I’m sitting here and writing this piece, my mind is running with chatter and noise. I’m longing for silence. The kind of silence that feels calm and still, and I can hear the odd bird outside, feel my heart beat and feel my mind think.
As I slow down and take a deep breath, I can feel it, even if just for a moment.
Whilst I was having lunch with a friend today, there was a strong intuitive call for silence during our conversations. Do not be mistaken to think the topic was not enjoyable; it was just this feeling that we didn’t need to fill up the air between us with more words.
We could have sat with each other in the silence, and enjoyed our meal with each other’s company.
We could have been sitting with ourselves or our own commitments and the comfort would have lingered.
We often feel obligated to fill silences.
Whether it’s in the space of perceived awkwardness or an inability to allow for quietness, it’s easy to slip into the pattern of making conversation for the sake of making conversation. It almost feels rude not to. Yet - if you pause long enough - you’ll notice that a lack of noise between two companions can actually be a beautiful thing.
It can even be refreshing and rejuvenating.
Allow for silence to be such a safe space that it gives your mind the chance to breathe. The space to detangle through the chaos, to allow thoughts to float seamlessly instead of being locked together.
When it comes to relationships, you can give yourself and your companion permission to stay in silence. I’m starting to believe that our community will give us the space to know that words need not be spoken to enhance a moment.
Presence is and will be enough.
An activity suggestion:
The next time you’re doing an activity that can benefit from mindfulness (examples include eating, exercising, cooking), take out the noise and distractions. Notice what you feel - and even through the discomfort know you’ll only be more aware of yourself as you come out the other side.
Ending with an affirmation:
May I give myself the space to be in silence and know that not everything in my mind needs to be spoken. Silence can be safe and soothing.
With lots of love and sunshine,
Athira
